Looking back, 2015 was a year of waiting. First, I was waiting to graduate. Then, I was waiting for whatever came next. There were days when I would have given anything for time to move faster. There were periods of loneliness and periods of frustration.
In other ways, though, it was a wonderful year. I was able to spend nine months living at home, which, in a way, has been like a return to childhood. I’ve loved spending time with my family. I loved working at our strawberry patch and apple orchard.
I’ve learned a lot this year. I finished my degree. I spent my summer pulling weeds followed by a fall hauling around apples. I experienced my first professional job. I attended the Urbana missions conference.
I’m not sad to see 2015 go. It’s been good, but better years lie ahead.
Check out some photo highlights from my year:
Skiing at Lutsen Mountains in Northern Minnesota
Long weekends spent studying in the basement of the library.
View of campus from my dorm window
Visit from my Austrian friends
Brandi Carlile in August
Sunset over the Rainy River along the Canadian boarder in northern Minnesota
It’s strange being a college graduate. I’ve worked so hard for so long and it’s odd to think I won’t be going back to Morris in the fall. Still, the school sure does know how to send us off. The ceremony was everything a graduation should be and I loved soaking in every minute of it.
Having the event outside in the heart of campus, surrounded by all our class buildings, felt incredibly intimate. The mall was absolutely packed and, the whole time, it felt like the university was wrapping its arms around me–giving me a long, sweet farewell. The speeches and performances were on-point, and although the band sounded a bit off-key, marching forward to “Pomp and Circumstance” still made me tear up.
Our student body president and my fellow classmate gave a traditional speech reliving all our shared experiences. When she came to the end, though, she shied away from the cheesy/vague encouragement that normally infiltrates graduation speeches. Instead, she told us one simple thing: Remember the prairie.
I adore this piece of advice because it’s something tangible. She didn’t tell us to pursue our dreams, reach for the stars, follow our path, etc. (It’s funny, ’cause I draw from the path metaphor for inspiration on this blog.) She told us to look back at the place we came from and remember the way it shaped us. It’s a call to never forget where we have come from.
Since the ceremony last Saturday, I’ve moved home and am now one of the stereotypical unemployed English majors living with their parents. Mind you, this isn’t a permanent situation. My job hunt is going to be a non-traditional one, but it is already underway. In a few months, I’ll hopefully be on my way to setting out on my own.
To conclude this post… I came to the prairie four years ago to study what I’m passionate about. I cannot express how thankful I am for all the people I’ve met, lessons learned, and memories made. It’s been fun blogging my way through college. Although it’s time to embark on the next adventure, I will always have a special place in my heart for Morris. I will always remember the prairie.
Yesterday, college ended. I took my last exam, met with my senior seminar professor about my performance, and dragged out my packing boxes.
As my four years in Morris draw to a close, I can’t help but reminisce about how far I’ve come. If I could go back in time and tell pre-college Amelia who she would become, she would have laughed in my face.
Become a camp counselor? Travel the world? Become even more book-obsessed? HA. Very funny, future Amelia.
In many ways, college has surprised me. I came in extremely ambitious–not exactly sure what I wanted to do, but eager to work hard and achieve material success. Who’d have thought that attending a tiny and extremely liberal school on the prairie would end in being called to full-time ministry.
I distinctly remember move-in day freshman year. The bundle of nerves constricting my stomach, numbly hugging my parents goodbye, blindly being hearded from event to event, a constant stream of faces and people. I remember calling home on day two of classes, sobbing to my mom that I couldn’t do it. Months of homesickness, of unhappiness, of adjustment.
It took time for me to find my bearings here. It took ages to find my true friends.
Once I found my place, I’d like to say that things were wonderful from there. That life was easy. That I plugged through four years of reading lists, essays, finals, and meetings with happy bliss, surrounded by a wonderful group of friends. To an extent, those things are all true. I certainly did all those things and I will forever be thankful for all the wonderful people I’ve met at Morris.
Academics aside, college is HARD. There’s never been a year that hasn’t been a struggle in some way. I spent three out of my four years in some kind of isolation–be it physical, spiritual, emotional, etc. Sophomore year was my favorite–I had a spectacular roommate, loved my classes, had my best friends by my side, and got to be in leadership for our local campus ministry. But even then, things were never fully sunshine.
But then again–that’s life. It’s never going to be all you want it to be.
Some people always say that high school is the best time of your life. Others claim that your college years take the cake. Honestly, I hope both camps are wrong. I’ve loved college, but I’m not going to let myself cling to these days when I know there are better ones to come.
I wouldn’t trade my college experience for anything. I’ve learned a lot. I’ve grown a lot. I’ve made memories that I will always cherish. I got to study literature, language, and art. I travelled the world and lived out my dreams. I discovered that there is so much more to me than I ever thought possible. I’m incredibly proud of how much I’ve accomplished.
I came to Morris to study what I’m passionate about and it was wonderful. Now it’s time to chase the next passion. I don’t know where I’ll be a year from now, but I’m excited to see where my path leads.
Three years ago, I turned to my roommate Alli and announced that I felt like God wanted me to start a Bible study. The only problem was I had absolutely no idea what I was doing.
Alli looked over at me with a sly smile. “Here’s what we’re doing. You and I are going to lead a Bible study together, we are going to target it towards single girls, and we are going to talk through our problems.” (At the time, the both of us were struggling a lot with being single. When you’re interested in dating good, Christian guys, Morris is not the place to be.)
That, friends, is how I became a small group leader.
That first year, we were known as the Single Ladies Bible Study. We read the book When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy. Although we had some good conversations, I really don’t recommend the book. A lot of the content is really simplistic and cheesy.
Every year, the Bible study has changed significantly. After year one, we dropped the “Single”, lost Alli to graduation, and our numbers dropped significantly. I was abroad for half the year and, when I came back, the once bustling group was down to three or four core members. We had lots of great talks, though, and really got to know each other.
This year, I co-lead with my friend Jourdan and the group changed entirely. Last fall, when we met to discuss what the study would look like, we had no idea how many people would actually show up. The core group returned and, to our surprise, so did a boatload of new faces. It really was a wonderful year. For the first time, it really felt like a community. The variety of the group still amazes me–we had freshman to seniors, newspaper lit nerds to athletes, biology to Spanish majors. Everyone was so different! But we all got along and learned so much from each other.
As leaders, Jourdan and I were pushed and stretched in ways we hadn’t expected. Before we knew it, we were each meeting one-on-one with several of the girls, mentoring and encouraging them. We planned Girls Nights once a month and came up with our own lessons every week. Planning lessons was a big challenge, but also an incredible opportunity.
Last week was our final meeting. The girls all surprised me with a party celebrating my graduation. Everyone brought treats, one girl made chicken tacos, and Jourdan made a cake. Their parting gift to me was a little plastic box covered in quotes. Inside, each girl had written out encouragement notes and shared their favorite Bible verses. It’s something for me to take with as I move into the future. Although I was pretty brain-dead the whole time (on account of the library staff party and English major picnic being the same night), their thoughtfulness really means the world to me.
Although it will continue to meet next year, I’m really sad to see it go. Being a small group leader has been one of my favorite parts of college. I’ve learned so much about myself and what it means to be a leader and have gotten to know so many wonderful people. Serving and loving people is hard, but it’s one of the greatest blessings life has to offer.
Being an English Major, I’ve done a LOT of reading over the past four years. From novels to plays to poetry, it’s been wonderful experiencing all the different texts. There have been many works I’ve absolutely loved, and several that I couldn’t stand.
Although I’m looking forward to pleasure-reading for the rest of my life, I thought I’d take a moment to look back at the best and worst reads of my undergraduate career. Below are my lists and in parenthesis are the classes I read them for.
Wieland by Charles Brockden Brown (Survey of American Lit I)
The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right (Courtly Love)
The Waves by Virginia Woolf (Woolf Lit)
The Way We Live Now by Anthony Trollope (Victorian Lit)
The Art of Courtly Love by Andreas Cappellanus (Courtly Love)
The Romance of the Rose (Courtly Love)
Antony & Cleopatra by William Shakespeare (Shakespeare)
Moses, Man of the Mountain by Zora Neale Hurston (Senior Seminar)
Fun Fact: I hated Wieland so much that I literally threw it at a wall. That book brought forth so much rage in my sophomore heart.
Mrs. Dalloway by Virginia Woolf (Survey of Brit Lit II, Woolf Lit)
Dracula by Brahm Stoker (Victorian Lit)
Coming Up for Air by George Orwell (Unhomely Homes)
The Faerie Queene (Book I) by Sir Edmund Spenser (Survey of Brit Lit I)
The Danish Girl by David Ebershoff (Senior Seminar)
Idyls of the King by Alfred, Lord Tennyson (Courtly Love)
These are texts I would recommend in a heartbeat–they left a deep impact in my heart and I know I will revisit them in the future.
Now that I’m done with literature classes, I’m really excited to start tackling classics for fun again. Bleak House has been on the back-burner for FAR too long.
All that’s left is to finish two papers, take an easy final, and I’m done with college!
I know that over the next week I’m going to go through a slew of emotions ranging from excitement to sadness to joy to terror and so on. (Britta articulates the roller coaster particularly well, so check that out.) For the moment, though, all I feel is relief. It’s been an exhausting semester and the end is in sight.
This post isn’t very substantial, but stay tuned! Once all my papers are done, I’ve got a week with little to no obligations. I’ve got a list of posts I want to write and will hopefully get to them. I’m looking forward to getting back into blogging regularly. I’ve missed this!
I’ll put on a fancy outfit, stand in front of my peers, and present the work I’ve spent the entire semester crafting. It’s been a long haul–weekends in the library, getting more interlibrary loans than I know what to do with, hours tucked away in the cozy corners of campus reading.
It’s all been building up to this moment. And, tomorrow, it will all be over. (Well. Not entirely. My paper isn’t due until Monday and it still needs polishing.)
For the most part, I feel great. I’ve been pushing myself hard and the work is definitely paying off. My points are all gathered, the words are there, all that is left is the delivery. I am ready.
Despite overall feelings of confidence, last night I kept having weird dreams. I’d be standing in front of all my professors and classmates, about to begin my presentation, and something would go wrong. In the first dream, I looked down at my script and found that I had accidentally printed it on transparent overhead sheets. The words blended together on the see-through background and I couldn’t present. In the second, I was on a desert island that had something to do with Egypt. I had to sit through all my classmates’ presentations and then, right when I was about to go, one of my professors got up and decided that it was time to present HIS work. So I was shoved to the side and forced to find my way home. Things got weird from there. I remember standing on the beach trying to find a boat and this little girl came up to me. She wanted my shoes. But then, I looked down, and found I was barefoot. My shoes were also lost. Then, a random lady came up to me, grabbed me by the arm, and started speaking to me vigorously in Spanish. I did the best I could with the little of the language I remember from high school, but it kept getting it mixed up with French. It was strange, to say the least.
It’s amazing how the subconscious latches to big events in our lives, even when we feel prepared for them.
Still. Today is dedicated to practicing and tomorrow, my senior seminar will be almost over. I’ll march proudly forth from the Humanities Lounge, get myself a treat from Higbees, and soak in the last classes of my education career. And it will be WONDERFUL.
P.S. I creeped on one of my classmates in the library this afternoon and learned that they haven’t even started their presentation. Which makes me feel even more confident!
It’s finally starting to hit. One week left of class. After eight semesters of syllabi and English courses, I’m down to the final novel.
Walking around Morris has become strange. It’s a strange blend of normality and finality. I was working in the library and I realized that the ground floor, my safeguard and happy place for so many hours of essay writing, will be nothing more than a memory. This place where, for the past four years, I have grown and blossomed will soon be just another part of my past. For so many months, all I’ve wanted to do is leave. Now, on the verge of being uprooted, I’m finding that part of me wants to bask in warm in the soil of the familiar.
But, at the same time, I feel the pressing urge to move on. To push forward, not knowing what’s ahead. Because, if I stay… what would become of me?
I’m reminded of the lyrics to a song by The Head and the Heart:
One day we’ll all be ghosts Trippin’ around in someone else’s home One day we’ll all be ghosts, ghosts, ghosts
This place is no longer mine. These halls are not my own. They will soon belong to someone else. I have to move on, lest I become a ghost, trapped in the in-between with nowhere to go.
Being transplanted is painful. Especially when you don’t know what the future holds. Where will I next take root? I have no idea. I have a strong calling and an outline of a plan. Hopefully, that will be enough.
(In case you’re wondering, the final novel I’m reading is Wintering by Kate Moses)
Maybe it’s because really nice out, which is odd for Minnesota this time of year. Or maybe I’ve spent too many afternoons pent-up in the library writing essay drafts. Whatever the reason, every time I open WordPress to make a new post, my thoughts fly out the window. My mind goes blank. I sit back. I think, “You know… maybe I’ll find the words tomorrow.”
I don’t want to abandon you, dear blog, especially when there is so much pre-graduation nostalgia floating in the air. There’s not better way to make a good post than channeling as much sentimentality as possible!
Really, though, my focus is elsewhere at this point.
I’m a busy girl.
My senior seminar draft is in full swing–I hit sixteen pages this afternoon! It’s nowhere near complete, but it’s a start. I’ve spent three afternoons on it and fully intend on using a fourth tomorrow. I wrote a different nine page essay earlier this week. I’ve been thinking deep thoughts about Romeo & Juliet, which is WAY better than I remember last time we met back in ninth grade. I have an interview for my dream internship next week. I’m reading this AWFUL book for my Courtly Love class called The Rules: Time-tested secrets for capturing the heart of Mr. Right. (It’s one of the most sexist, offensive texts I’ve encountered yet. My face contorts with disgust every time I look at the cover.) I’ve been planning and attending Bible studies and meetings, preparing for my future career in ministry. I’ve been trying to spend time with people I care about, which is a challenge ’cause it’s the busy time of the semester. I’ve been going to the gym, taking walks to the wind turbines, and soaking in as much sunlight as possible in hopes that it will keep me going.
At this point, I’d rather do all these things and more than try to blog properly. Maybe when my senior seminar draft is finished and polished, my inclination to write will come back. Who knows?
Until then, you can find me in the library. Or watching Netflix. Or thinking about Shakespeare. (I wasn’t kidding about being in love with Romeo & Juliet. It’s a wonderful play and those poor kids need to learn to keep their hormones in check.)
Because of the length of Minnesota’s winters, when Spring comes, it’s a big deal.
Immediately, there is a shift on campus. Even though it may only be forty-five degrees, everyone is suddenly in shorts and flip-flops. The mall is suddenly filled with students laughing, throwing frisbees, and even sunbathing. The library is dead quiet.
Despite all there is to do between me and graduation, I find it difficult to resist the allure of warm weather. After five months of snow, wind, and subzero temperatures, I long to abandon the books and soak in the sunlight. I changed up my workout routine and abandoned the gym to, for the first time in my life, go on a real-person, non-treadmill run. My body was (and still is) pretty unhappy with me (running is HARD), but it was worth it to be outside.
Last night, I drove to my Bible study in the next town over with the windows down. My arm rested casually on the ledge, hand waving in the wind. I blasted Cloud Cult and watched the prairie zoom by, not a care in the world.
Sometimes, it feels so good to ditch studying and soak in the sun.